Les mecanismes
- Telling a woman that she is less than she truly is;
Dire à une femme qu'elle est inférieure à ce qu'elle est vraiment
- Raising vocal volume in an attempt to gain control of an interaction;
augmenter le volume vocal dans une tentative de prendre le contrôle d'une interaction;
- Labeling a woman in an effort to attack what she thinks about herself;
Étiquetage d'une femme dans un effort pour attaquer ce qu'elle pense d'elle-même;
- Finding fault with a woman or with what she does;
trouver à des fautes à une femme ou avec à ce qu'elle fait;
- Exerting control over a woman to keep her at a power disadvantage;
exercer un contrôle sur une femme pour la garder dans une position désavantageuse de pouvoir;
- Withdrawing and/or pouting when the perpetrator does not get his or her way;
- Isolating from family and friends: Keeping a woman from valuable support systems to maintain power and control over her;
- Monitoring time and/or activities: Giving the impression to the woman being monitored that she is not in charge of her choices or actions;
- Attempting to restrict resources (finances, telephone): Preventing a woman from calling for help or paying for escape;
- Interfering with opportunities (job, medical care, education): Reinforcing a perception of helplessness and hopelessness in the victim;
- Accusing the victim of engaging in repeated and/or purposively hurtful behaviors: Shifting the blame or creating fiction to further erode self-esteem;
- Throwing objects, not necessarily at the victim: Showing power and giving a sense of danger to increase fearful obedience;
- Slamming of objects or doors: Showing power to intimidate and manipulate;
- Ridiculing the victim: Psychologically attacking the woman’s self-esteem to produce a mind-set of learned helplessness and lack of hope;
- Expressing disgust toward the victim: Trying to convince the woman that she is worthless and, therefore, that she needs the perpetrator;
- Threatening to abandon (physically or emotionally): Generally occurring after the victim has been conditioned to believe that she cannot survive without the perpetrator;
- Expressing excessive jealousy: Resulting from the perpetrator’s fears that the victim may have a healthy relationship with someone else and that she may realize the tactics being used against her;
- Threatening life, pets, property, and/or family: Exercising emotional blackmail that makes the woman comply to protect her life and health or that of people and/or things that she cares about;
- Exposing the victim to abuse of her children, pets, or parents: Inducing a state of posttraumatic stress in the woman, who will do anything to keep others safe;
- Coercing the victim into illegal activity: Resulting from many items previously mentioned, this is an ultimate expression of the power the perpetrator has over his or her victim;
- Provoking the victim into helpless flailing: Making the woman put up some sort of defense in a defenseless situation.
Source : ‘‘Intimate’’ Violence against Women—When Spouses, Partners, or Lovers Attack
by Paula K. Lundberg-Love and Shelly L. Marmion (ads)
- Telling a woman that she is less than she truly is;
Dire à une femme qu'elle est inférieure à ce qu'elle est vraiment
- Raising vocal volume in an attempt to gain control of an interaction;
augmenter le volume vocal dans une tentative de prendre le contrôle d'une interaction;
- Labeling a woman in an effort to attack what she thinks about herself;
Étiquetage d'une femme dans un effort pour attaquer ce qu'elle pense d'elle-même;
- Finding fault with a woman or with what she does;
trouver à des fautes à une femme ou avec à ce qu'elle fait;
- Exerting control over a woman to keep her at a power disadvantage;
exercer un contrôle sur une femme pour la garder dans une position désavantageuse de pouvoir;
- Withdrawing and/or pouting when the perpetrator does not get his or her way;
- Isolating from family and friends: Keeping a woman from valuable support systems to maintain power and control over her;
- Monitoring time and/or activities: Giving the impression to the woman being monitored that she is not in charge of her choices or actions;
- Attempting to restrict resources (finances, telephone): Preventing a woman from calling for help or paying for escape;
- Interfering with opportunities (job, medical care, education): Reinforcing a perception of helplessness and hopelessness in the victim;
- Accusing the victim of engaging in repeated and/or purposively hurtful behaviors: Shifting the blame or creating fiction to further erode self-esteem;
- Throwing objects, not necessarily at the victim: Showing power and giving a sense of danger to increase fearful obedience;
- Slamming of objects or doors: Showing power to intimidate and manipulate;
- Ridiculing the victim: Psychologically attacking the woman’s self-esteem to produce a mind-set of learned helplessness and lack of hope;
- Expressing disgust toward the victim: Trying to convince the woman that she is worthless and, therefore, that she needs the perpetrator;
- Threatening to abandon (physically or emotionally): Generally occurring after the victim has been conditioned to believe that she cannot survive without the perpetrator;
- Expressing excessive jealousy: Resulting from the perpetrator’s fears that the victim may have a healthy relationship with someone else and that she may realize the tactics being used against her;
- Threatening life, pets, property, and/or family: Exercising emotional blackmail that makes the woman comply to protect her life and health or that of people and/or things that she cares about;
- Exposing the victim to abuse of her children, pets, or parents: Inducing a state of posttraumatic stress in the woman, who will do anything to keep others safe;
- Coercing the victim into illegal activity: Resulting from many items previously mentioned, this is an ultimate expression of the power the perpetrator has over his or her victim;
- Provoking the victim into helpless flailing: Making the woman put up some sort of defense in a defenseless situation.
Source : ‘‘Intimate’’ Violence against Women—When Spouses, Partners, or Lovers Attack
by Paula K. Lundberg-Love and Shelly L. Marmion (ads)
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